"It’s a done deal! Today, I offer myself a loving life respectful of my basic needs in terms of love and emotional security, but also material."
Who has never taken such a resolution? Who has never vowed this promise? Then an external element manifests itself and we fall back into our old behaviors while the commitment to ourselves falls into the oblivion of our inner fortress.
I remember an umpteenth argument with an ex-companion, after which I had made the umpteenth decision to be totally devoted to listening to my basic needs. The guy came to apologize, once again. My first instinct was to answer him, but I choose this time to curb my impulsivity and rather than react, I paused and looked with curiosity at what was happening in me. The strong emotion of anger roared and not wanting to let it direct my life, I had to manage it differently than by going up into the towers. I then remembered a friend who had once proposed me: "And if you welcomed emotion without judging it?" This is what I did that day and I discovered that beyond anger, I was living in my depth an extraordinary adventure.
Since that day, I have often tried – and almost as often forgot – to act rather than react. The line between the two can sometimes seem thin and subtle, but if we take the time to sit down and observe what is happening in us, we then become more actor of our existence and we gradually stop suffering what is no longer suitable for us.
The more we hurry, the more we lose ourselves.
You have probably already read or heard the story that I transcribe below:
A man prays:
- "Lord, make me rich."
Every day, the man prays and utters the same words. Every day, when he goes home at night, he finds that his situation remains unchanged.
One morning, he felt anger in him and expressed it to God:
- "Lord, it's enough! I pray every day and You... You do not even answer the prayer of one of your faithful!"
As man takes his breath again, he hears the voice of God answering him:
- "Have you even thought about buying a lottery ticket?"
I read everywhere - and for several years - that thought is creative. Some even advocate that it is enough to think, to imagine, to dream or to visualize something and this thing become reality. So many sit on their couch or to meditate... to a better world for example!
However, I would like to remind you that we live in a reality that is made up of matter and that, therefore, if you want something concrete to manifest itself, you will have to do the right things.
I give you a few examples: if you want to have a child, you’ll have to have sex; if you want to be thin and healthy, you’ll have to feed yourself differently; if you want to paint a painting, you’ll have to buy some canvas, brushes and paint; if you want the planet to be less polluted, you will have to consume otherwise; if you want the wealth to be better shared, you will have to stop feeding the current system of society; etc., etc.
So yes, thought is the origin of everything, but if that thought is not followed by concrete and right actions, my opinion is that your reality won't change. Do you know what I mean?
If you are new in Personal Growth or if you start to be interested in cards, you will find that some are called Tarot and other Oracles. How not to confuse them? To find your way out of the fog, I will briefly explain what it is.
First of all, let’s have a look at the definition of the oracle: message interpreted from an event or an object used to support this interpretation.
The runes are an oracle as well as the Yi-King, the coffee grounds, the crystal ball, the croaking of a raven, the leaf falling from the tree… and… the Tarot! And here, you will say that I am confusing you. Let's continue and stick to the cards.
If the Tarot is an Oracle, not all Oracles are Tarots. In addition to the name given to the cards by their designer, a Tarot game must systematically contain 22 major arcana and 56 minor arcana, or a total of 78 cards. The major arcana are numbered from 1 to 21 + an unnumbered card representing both 0 and 22. These arcana are illustrated with symbolic scenes and bear names.
The minor arcana are divided into 4 suits of 14 cards each: batons, swords, cups and coins. Each suit contains 10 cards numbered from 1 to 10 + 4 figures: jack, knight, queen and king.
Some Tarots are only published with the 22 major arcana, which is already enough to work with them if it is only symbolism that attracts you, but if you want to make the link between symbolism and your daily life, I highly recommend you turn to a complete Tarot.
Oracles cards are therefore those that do not include the structure of a Tarot according to the description I have just given you and if the purpose of an Oracle is also to deliver messages to us, they will be more accessible to people who do not want to dig into the field of symbolism.
To conclude, I would say that a Tarot and an Oracle are not only used for divination purposes, but are also good tools for advancing in self-knowledge.
Many of us often aspire to experience something different/otherwise. Who has never dreamed of an idyllic vacation when he/she was stuck in the office? Who has never dreamed of staying in a vast residence rather than in his/her two rooms? Who has never thought to meet the one with whom he/she would share a love story more wonderful than those narrated in fairy tales?
But does dreaming to the point of fleeing the reality of everyday life really make us happier? Could dreaming too much have an impact on our mental and physical health?
I read everywhere that it is important to dream, to pursue one’s dream, or even to cling to it at any cost. I think this is true, but only in part, because a dream too far from reality, an unrealistic dream, an utopia, brings - in my opinion - no satisfaction in the long term.
What if instead of dreaming of the impossible, we begin to become aware of what we have? What if we go further and begin to fully appreciate what we have? By acknowledging all that we already have (health, housing, work, family, friends, etc.) and expressing our gratitude in this regard, we observe that we are in a position of openness that allows us to welcome even more.
What if you’re already living your dream?
From as far back as I can remember, I think I’ve always had my brain boiling, the thoughts colliding continuously, one question leading to another, one idea leading to a myriad of others. I was told that I had a creative mind, but what is creativity worth if it is not expressed? I had lots of great ideas all over the place, I was always procrastinating and nothing really satisfying was taking shape in my reality.
Several years ago, when I was at the bottom of my bed with my eyes wide open, hostage to yet another insomnia, a new enlightenment had crossed my little head and I had heard myself whisper: «a thought, an act». Had I finally found THE solution? Probably relieved, I remember that I had immediately fallen asleep.
The next morning, I woke up with a smile on my face and a light heart. Not too proud of me, I sat at the breakfast table and said to the present friend:
– From now, as soon as I have a thought, I will make an act to realize it!
He shrugged his shoulders and said:
– Poor thing, you won’t have enough of a day to realize all the thoughts that are rushing. Do you even know how many we produce per minute?
I was sweeping with my hand his coming explanation:
– I am convinced that by putting into action any thought that comes to me and by focusing all my attention on the act in question, rather than producing more thoughts, they will calm themselves.
We live an incarnation experience that requires us to fully inhabit this matter and to fully inhabit it, it seems essential to me to go beyond theories and other concepts and go further in order to concretize them. For having put into practice the inspiration that came to me that night and for having made it since a habit, I can assure you that when a thought is followed by an act, we then become complete and it is only by being whole that we can feel inner peace, that which manifests itself when we cease to be torn between the idea and its realization.
We are constantly subjected to changes and whether they are chosen or undergone, they systematically cause stress in our different energy bodies (spiritual, emotional, mental and physical). Most of the time, we are not aware of the stress engendered, because our body - in the global sense of the term - has the intelligence to self-regulate to regain balance without us having to intervene in consciousness in the natural course of its adaptation.
The way we look at life and all the situations that come our way is decisive when it comes to the consequences of stress. This view is not only the result of what animates us in our deepest depths, it is also shaped by the society in which we evolve as well as by the education received from the very early childhood. The Soul does not act alone, it uses the Ego to experience the worlds (I specify the worlds as the Ego also exists outside the manifested reality). For some, for example, it is positively stressful to go to work even though they will have to attend a meeting, while for others, it will be a real ordeal. For some, it is positively stressful to take their over-excited kids on holidays on a crowded and noisy beach while for others, it will rather be perceived as an insurmountable chore.
In short, if we consider the changes positive, stress energizes us and allows us to act. If we perceive the changes as negative, stress can slow us down, sometimes even paralyzing us. And if we insist, it will be burn-out or illness.
As our gaze on life in general and on ours in particular determines whether stress will be constructive or destructive for us, it seems to me wise to become aware of this famous gaze, an inner gaze that determines - very unconsciously - our actions, but also and above all our reactions.
A first awareness can be obtained through mental analysis and reflection. However, my own experience has shown me the limits of this method as the mind itself is only the result of conditioning stored from conception (and beyond). Moreover, while the analysis allows understanding - although it remains totally subjective - it is often confined to the intellectual level. This is certainly necessary, but not enough to generate a paradigm shift and what is happening in us.
Another method is then to relax, to put the mind to rest, to disconnect it. Many people who discover active relaxation techniques often fall asleep at the beginning of their practice. This is due either to the cumulative tiredness of the organism or to an unconscious need of the mind to short-circuit any attempt to bring it to term change. As the practice progresses, through gentle and benevolent repetitions towards oneself, the person will be able to remain in a state of semi-awakening. It is then that real understanding, often in symbolic form, will naturally rise from the subconscious to the consciousness.
The change will then begin to take place.