We are constantly subjected to changes and whether they are chosen or undergone, they systematically cause stress in our different energy bodies (spiritual, emotional, mental and physical). Most of the time, we are not aware of the stress engendered, because our body - in the global sense of the term - has the intelligence to self-regulate to regain balance without us having to intervene in consciousness in the natural course of its adaptation.
The way we look at life and all the situations that come our way is decisive when it comes to the consequences of stress. This view is not only the result of what animates us in our deepest depths, it is also shaped by the society in which we evolve as well as by the education received from the very early childhood. The Soul does not act alone, it uses the Ego to experience the worlds (I specify the worlds as the Ego also exists outside the manifested reality). For some, for example, it is positively stressful to go to work even though they will have to attend a meeting, while for others, it will be a real ordeal. For some, it is positively stressful to take their over-excited kids on holidays on a crowded and noisy beach while for others, it will rather be perceived as an insurmountable chore.
In short, if we consider the changes positive, stress energizes us and allows us to act. If we perceive the changes as negative, stress can slow us down, sometimes even paralyzing us. And if we insist, it will be burn-out or illness.
As our gaze on life in general and on ours in particular determines whether stress will be constructive or destructive for us, it seems to me wise to become aware of this famous gaze, an inner gaze that determines - very unconsciously - our actions, but also and above all our reactions.
A first awareness can be obtained through mental analysis and reflection. However, my own experience has shown me the limits of this method as the mind itself is only the result of conditioning stored from conception (and beyond). Moreover, while the analysis allows understanding - although it remains totally subjective - it is often confined to the intellectual level. This is certainly necessary, but not enough to generate a paradigm shift and what is happening in us.
Another method is then to relax, to put the mind to rest, to disconnect it. Many people who discover active relaxation techniques often fall asleep at the beginning of their practice. This is due either to the cumulative tiredness of the organism or to an unconscious need of the mind to short-circuit any attempt to bring it to term change. As the practice progresses, through gentle and benevolent repetitions towards oneself, the person will be able to remain in a state of semi-awakening. It is then that real understanding, often in symbolic form, will naturally rise from the subconscious to the consciousness.
The change will then begin to take place.